Not many men can achieve the ultimate high when it comes to enjoying themselves in bed with their woman; this is why you will find that the majority of the men will only fantasize about the most exciting sex they can have with their blondes. It's sad but true; women are much more physically and mentally aroused when a man masturbates her and she reciprocates. This is one of the main reasons why couples turn to adult movies as their means of turning a Milf on; because they can masturbate her and watch the entire movie together. Even though you can get over your self-consciousness and think about other girls, remember the fact that it's still your partner that you're dealing with so there's no harm in doing this to help increase the pleasure for both of you feel. So, if you are able to make a girl orgasm with your fingers; you should go for it and show off your skills to your partner because after all it's your penis that she needs and wants..